Yes, a controversial topic, S Lynn. My father, who passed away in 1986, was an MD, and I often wonder what his take would be on being “retained”. He was among the last doctors to carry their black bag to the homes of his patients and religiously made his hospital rounds every evening. I suspect (if he offered this alternative) he would routinely violate the premise and “keep showing up.” I love and miss him greatly. Good luck with the decisions ahead of your family!